Taking a Life Audit: Five Steps to Prioritising What’s Important

Sometimes it’s difficult to get a clear view of exactly what your priorities are. Often, as we deal with various demands on our energy and time. True life goals fall by the wayside and smaller concerns take up all of our attention. Modern life is so fast-paced and demanding that we can find ourselves getting bogged down in the inconsequential—things that if only we were to take a step back, we would realize aren’t that important to us.

This can result in you not spending enough time with your friends, family and loved ones, dealing with huge amounts of stress from things that ultimately aren’t that significant, and forgetting what it is that you truly want in life. There’s always something to grab our attention, and the information overload that comes with living in the 21st Century can be at best confusing, and at worst—a source of strain and unhappiness. Sometimes it’s important to step back, clear out, and take a life audit. This way you can chuck out the junk, recognize what’s important to you, rediscover your ambitions, and identify what you want to improve.

1. Find a Habit that Clears your Mind
Whether it’s going out for a jog, taking up yoga, or sitting in quiet meditation, finding a way to clear your mind will prepare you to think seriously about your life. When we rush from one task to the next, our brains are so busy that we are focused entirely on immediate demands and future worries, making it difficult to think about things critically. By taking up a habit that quietens

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Saying No As Much As Yes To Enjoy Life More

 
Most of us, women in particular, have a hard time saying no. We don’t want to disappoint anyone, especially not the people we love. As a result, we end up putting everyone else’s needs ahead of our own.
When put on the spot, we feel like we have to give an answer immediately. We get flustered and end up saying ‘yes’ when we really shouldn’t. This leads to us cancelling at the last moment and then having to deal with the inevitable guilt that follows.

Saying ‘no’ isn’t easy

Living abroad is amazing. The only downside is that you miss your friends and family back home. A lot. Opening a Cape Town office provided the perfect solution. It made good business sense and we were going to do it anyway, but at least now I’d have a bona fide excuse to go home and I’d get to see the people I love more often.

I’d have to work too, but since I love what I do I didn’t see

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Falsafa Ya "Mbio Za Sakafuni Huishia Ukingoni"...

"Mbio za sakafuni huishia ukingoni", huu ni usemi wa wahenga ambao una ukweli halisi. Kwa sababu kila sakafu ina ukingo, unapokimbia kwenye sakafu ukifika kwenye ukingo wa sakafu mbio zimeishia pale.

Maisha yetu ni mbio za sakafuni, kwa sababu kila mmoja wetu anajua kwamba hatoishi milele, siku moja wote tutakufa, na wala siyo mbali kama tunavyofikiri. Miaka 100 ijayo wote tunaosoma hapa sasa hivi tutakuwa tumeshakufa, mbio zetu zitakuwa zimefika ukingo wa sakafu yake.

Sasa swali moja muhimu sana kujiuliza ni je mbio za sakafu yetu zitaishia kwenye ukingo wa sakafu au zitaendelea? Hili ndiyo tutakalojadili kwenye makala yetu ya leo ya falsafa mpya ya maisha.

Habari za leo mwanafalsafa mwenzangu?
Ni imani yangu kwamba uko vizuri na una

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HASARA ZA KUJIPENDEKEZA.

1. Hauwezi kumkemea huyo unayejipendekeza kwake hata kama anakosea.

2. Unakuwa Mtumwa kwa huyo unayejipendekeza kwake.

3. Unaifanya akili yako ishindwe kuzalisha  matunda maana Unakuwa Tegemezi kwa huyo unayejipendekeza kwake.

4. Utajikuta unakosana NA watu hasa wakimkosoa huyo unayejipendekeza kwake. Maana huntokubali akosolewe mbele yako.

5.Inakufanya kuwa mnafiki  ,Maana hata wewe kwenye uvungu wa moyo wako kuna vitu unaviona havipo sawa lakini  "UNAMEZEA TU " Kulinda kufukuzwa.

6. Inakuharibu kisaikolojia ,hasa pale ambapo  Hautapata kile Ulichokitegemea kwa Huyo unayejipendekeza kwake.

7.Inakufanya Uyanyonge MAONO uliyonayo kwa mikono yako mwenyewe, maana Muda mwingi unatafuta Jinsi ya kumpendeza  Huyo unayejipendekeza kwake. Badala ya kuwekeza Muda wako kwenye MAONO  Binafsi.

8.Kunakufanya Huyo  Unayejipendekeza kwake  awe

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MAMBO 6 UNAYOPASWA KUACHANA NAYO LEO ILI USIFE MASKINI

Watu wengi wanakufa masikini na wanashindwa kufikia mafanikio yao bila wao kujua tatizo ni nini,imekuwa kama ugonjwa watu wengi kuendelea kulalamikia serikali au wazazi wao kuwa wao hawafanikiwi wao ndio sababu,na wengine wamekuwa wakikata tamaa kabisa ya mafanikio yao bila wao kujua nini kinachokwamisha maisha yao kuwa bora.

Leo tutajifunza pamoja vizuwizi vya mafanikio yako ambapo kama utavifanyia kazi basi utaanza kushuhudia mafanikio yako,ni muujiza mkubwa sana utatokea kwako hakuna aliezaliwa kuwa masikini rafiki.soma kwa makini.

1.UOGA ( _Fear_)
Hichi ni kikwazo kikubwa sana kwa watu wengi katika kuyafikia mafanikio yao, watu wengi wamekuwa masikini na wengine kufa masikini kwasababu ya uoga, uoga wa kukataliwa na uoga wa kushindwa, kama unataka kufanikiwa katika kila kitu kwenye maisha yako usiogope kuomba au kusema chochote mbele ya watu eti kwa kuogopa kukataliwa! Rafiki usiusemee moyo wa

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Kizuizi Cha Furaha Yetu

Kila mtu anapenda kuwa na maisha ya furaha, na ili kupata furaha hii tumekuwa tukikazana kufanya mambo mbalimbali.

Kwa bahati mbaya sana mengi ya mambo tunayofanya tukitarajia kupata furaha, yamekuwa hayatuletei furaha ya kudumu, badala yake yanatuletea raha za muda mfupi ila ukweli unabaki pale pale kwamba hatuna furaha.

Tulishajifunza kwenye moja ya makala kwamba furaha ya kweli inaanzia ndani yetu sisi wenyewe. Inaanzia pale ambapo tunajijua sisi wenyewe, tunajua ni nini hasa tunataka na jinsi gani tunaweza kufikia tunachotaka.

Pamoja na furaha kuanzia ndani yetu sisi wenyewe, kuna kitu kingine ambacho kinaanzia ndani yetu ambacho kinatuzuia kuwa na

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Chanzo Cha Mafanikio Na Furaha Kwenye Maisha

Habari za leo rafiki na ndugu yangu?
Karibu kwenye kipengele chetu hiki cha FALSAFA YA MAISHA. Tumeshajifunza sana kuhusu furaha na vyanzo vya furaha kwenye maisha yetu. Hivyo kwa sasa nategemea utakuwa na mafanikio na furaha, kwa sababu ni maisha ya mafanikio na furaha ndiyo maisha bora kuishi.
 
Lakini kwa bahati mbaya sana wengi bado hawana mafanikio wala furaha. Wanaishi maisha ya kupita tu kama wanasubiri kitu fulani, hawapati kitu hiko na maisha yao yanazidi kuwa magumu. Leo tutakwenda kuviangalia vitu hivi viwili kwa pamoja, ili tuone njia bora ya kuwa navyo vyote kwa pamoja ili tuwe na maisha bora.
 
Maisha bora yanaanza na sisi wenyewe na kwa kupitia falsafa hii mpya ya maisha kila mmoja wetu ataweza kuwa na maisha bora sana kwake.
 
Mafanikio.
Mafanikio kwa lugha rahisi ambayo kila mtu anaweza kuielewa na kuifanyia kazi ni kupata kile ambacho unakitaka. Hivyo mafanikio yoyote yanaanza na hitaji au ndoto au malengo. 

Ambapo unapanga kupata kitu fulani ambacho ni muhimu kwako au kinahitajika ili maisha yako yaweze kwenda vizuri. Baada ya kujua hiki unachokitaka sasa unakifanyia kazi, unaweza juhudi kubwa kuhakikisha unapata hiki unachokitaka. Na pale unapokipata ndiyo mafanikio.
 
Elewa vizuri hapo ya kwamba mafanikio ni

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Usikubali Mambo Madogo Yakuharibie Siku Yako!!!

Habari za leo mwanafalsafa mwenzangu?
Maisha bila ya falsafa ni sawa na bendera iliyotundikwa. Bendera hii haina maamuzi yoyote, bali hufuata uelekeo wa upepo. Hakuna hatari kubwa ya kuishi kama kukosa falsafa ya maisha yako. kwa sababu utajikuta unafanya vitu ambavyo hujui kwa nini unafanya, na vibaya zaidi unapoteza muda na kukosa vile ambavyo ni vya msingi sana kwenye maisha yako. Ndiyo maana ni muhimu sana kujijengea falsafa ya maisha ambayo itatuongoza kwenye nyakati zote za maisha yetu.
 
Karibu tena leo tunakwenda kuangalia eneo dogo sana na la maisha yetu lakini linalobeba maana kubwa sana. Eneo hili ni yale mambo madogo madogo yanayotokea kwenye maisha yetu ya kila siku. Tunaweza kuyaona ni madogo, lakini yanahusika sana kwenye jinsi maisha yetu yanavyokwenda.
 
Siku zetu huwa zinaanza vizuri sana, tukiwa na matarajio mazuri sana, mpaka pale inapofikia hatua sisi wenyewe tunaharibu siku zetu. Nina imani umewahi kumaliza siku zako nyingi ukiwa na msongo wa mawazo, ukiwa na hasira na ukiwa unajisikia vibaya au hata kukata tamaa kabisa, si ndiyo?
 
Sasa naomba nikuulize swali moja, katika siku hizo, je uliamka asubuhi ukajiambia ya

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How To Deal With Setbacks. A Fool-Proof Strategy To Get You Back On Track

Let your mind drift for a moment… You’re in a perfect place—a place where every morning you wake up feeling confident, ready to take on the world and win. In this place, everything always works out. Struggling to imagine that? Yep, me too.

Life doesn’t always go according to plan. It has its ups and downs. If you’re not careful, the ‘downs’ can force you onto a slippery slope of negativity and low self-esteem. Setbacks happen. You need to deal with them quickly to prevent negative thinking from taking over. So how do you that? Having a strategy will help.

Some time ago, while I was in the Armed Forces, I was invited to spend a week submerged at sea in one of the Royal Navy’s Nuclear Submarines.

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Epukana Na Jambo Hili Ili Uwe Na Furaha Kwenye Maisha

Habari za leo mwanafalsafa ya maisha?
Ni matumaini yangu unaendelea vyema sana, huku ukijijenga falsafa mpya na bora sana ya maisha yako. Naendelea kukukumbusha kwamba unahitaji kujenga falsafa mpya ya maisha yako kwa sababu maisha uliyopokea kwenye jamii hayana falsafa. Watu wanaishi kama wanavyowaona wengine wakiishi na hili limeleta changamoto kubwa kwa jamii nzima.

Tunazungumzia sana furaha kwa sababu huu ndio msingi wa maisha yetu, bila ya furaha maisha yanakuwa magumu sana na hatuwezi kufikia kile ambacho tunakitaka. Na hapa kwenye furaha ndipo penye changamoto nyingi sana, kwa sababu kwa kiasi kikubwa hatuielewi furaha ya kweli tunawezaje kuipata.

Tulishajifunza kupitia falsafa hii mpya ya maisha ya kwamba furaha haitokani na vitu, hakuna kitu au mtu yeyote anayeweza kukuletea

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Namna Ya Kudhibiti Fikra Zako!

Habari za leo mwanafalsafa mwenzangu?
 
Karibu leo tunakwenda kuangalia njia ya uhakika ya kudhibiti Fikra zetu ili kuwa na uhuru na maisha yetu.
 
Kitu muhimu sana tunachotaka kwenye maisha yetu, ili tuweze kuyafurahia na tuweze kufanya yale yanayotupeleka kwenye mafanikio makubwa ni uhuru. Uhuru ndiyo hitaji la msingi la kila binadamu, lakini siyo wote tumeweza kuwa na uhuru. Pamoja na kwamba tunaishi kwenye nchi huru, lakini bado wengi maisha yao yamefungwa. Na vifungo hivi vinaanzia sehemu moja muhimu ambayo ni fikra zetu.
 
Hakuna kitu kina nguvu kwenye maisha yako kuzidi fikra zako. Kile unachofikiri kwa muda mrefu ndiyo kinachotokea kweny

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You Don't Belong Here!

A man walked into a concourse of a premium exclusive banking hall in New York and casually strolled towards the available Teller; half-way to the window, the security and the bank hallway supervisor grabbed him and pulled him to the side door – he was clearly out of place from the way he was dressed, surely a man dressed in a cheap suit and shoes, carrying an old suitcase like him could not be one of their customers, after all they are a premium exclusive bank. With that in mind, he was shown, rather shoved, into the exit side door quickly so as to avoid other customer's look of disdain and embarrassment.

As he strolled out, he turned around, removed a shabby hat and showed them his ID. It was Mr Henry Ford (Founder – Owner of Ford Motors); he was their No.1 customer, banking more than half of the other customers combined. Long story short, Mr Ford changed bank despite numerous apologies from the bank.

I must admit, Mr Ford was a bit unfair because it is a reality of life that people will judge you FIRST by your external appearance. BUT, again it is a powerful lesson to us all that – though we tag and label people initially by outward appearance, we should not stop there, find

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Take the Road Less Traveled

Image via Creative Commons, Dominick’s Flickr photostream.

 

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In life, there are two paths available to each of us. Which path we travel is determined entirely by our own actions, our decisions, and our priorities. It is decided by our character – the ability to make the right choice, even if it is not the easy choice.

“Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. But small is the gate and narrow is the road that leads to life, and only a few find it.” – Matthew 7:13-14

In life, we are faced with decisions each day, some that are easy, and some that may be very difficult. The decisions we make and how we choose to deal with individual circumstances determines which road we are traveling. Remaining on the narrow road takes a great deal of thought, concentration, and dedication. An important step in the ongoing process of personal development is to be able to discern between the broad road and the narrow road, and then choose th

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Mambo 3 Ya Kuanzia Ili Ufikie Mafanikio Ya Juu Zaidi.

 

Wakati natafakari maisha jinsi yalivyo na wakati natafakari ufahari wa mwanadamu hapa duniani, ndipo nilipopata kuelewa kwamba maisha ni kama maigizo ni kama uchekeshaji vile. Kwanini nasema hivyo? 

 

Nasema hivyo kwa sababu usipoangalia kwa makini unaweza kuishi kwa kujisahau jinsi ulivyo badala yake ukaishi kwa taswira ya dunia ambayo taswira ya dunia sio kitu halisi bali ni taswira tu au mtazamo tu. Ndiyo maana nikapata kanuni rahisi ya maisha kwamba maisha yote hapa duniani is a game yaani ni mchezo kama  ilivyo michezo tunayoifahamu hivi sasa.

Najua hujaelewa ninachosema, ngoja nikupe mfano; kuna wakati nilipokuwa ndogo nilikuwa naishi kwa taabu sana kwa sababu nilikuwa najiona mimi ni mfupi na mwembemba zaidi kuliko wenzangu,  kila siku nilikuwa najilinganisha na wenzangu na nilijiona mimi ni mdogo zaidi. Niliishi kwa unyonge sana kipindi hicho sikuwana uhuru wa kusimama na kujidai mbele ya wenzangu.

Iko mifano ya namna hiyo mingi;  nimekutana na watu wanajiita wazuri wa sura au walembo, mara nyingi hujivunia sura yao nzuri na jinsi wanavyofuatwafuatwa na watu maarufu kwahiyo watu hao huringia uzuri wa sura zao nzuri. 

 

Baadaye nikagundua kuwa kumbe mtu anayeringia na

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10 Ways to Embrace Changes In Your Personal and Professional Life

For many individuals, accepting change in their personal and professional lives is oftentimes a difficult proposition. Yet change is inevitable; it is the only thing that is constant in our world. Whether it is in your personal life or your professional life, you can anticipate changes that you will have to adjust to.
 

However, accepting change is not a popular idea and we typically oppose or resist it. People are reluctant to step out of their comfort zones because they get attached to old habits and their lifestyles. This makes it difficult to achieve our goals.
Why are People so afraid of Change?
Even though you may want to control your own destiny, making changes in your life may be so intimidating that you will end up settling for less or doing nothing at all. There are 6 reasons why so many people are afraid of change including:

Agonizing over certain decisions because you feel isolated:
-Clinging to those perks, possessions, and statuses that you have acquired along the way
-Doubting yourself and feeling that you are not up to

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10 Reasons Why You’re Enough Just the Way You Are

Since you’re reading this post, you’re probably drawn to personal development in some way.
Maybe you’re going through something heavy right now or maybe it’s just your daily mental multivitamin.
It’s been many years since I first felt drawn to the self­help genre. Tony Robbins’ “Awaken the Giant Within” was my gateway drug so to speak.

Then came numerous others.

Reading these books always made me feel better about myself, but just like a drug, I found myself wanting and needing more to help me feel okay with who I was.

 

Don’t get me wrong, they’ve been immensely helpful in understanding myself and others more and have helped change my life for the better. And I still read them on a regular basis. But often I used them, similar to the way people use drugs ­ as an escape.
 

I became somewhat dependent on them to give me that boost I needed to have a good day rather than simply being present with what or whom was in front of me.
I wanted the quick fix. I wanted to wake up and feel like all my flaws were mended. I wanted to feel whole.

Everyone at some point or another has felt

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FAHAMU MAKUNDI MANNE YA TABIA ZA BINADAMU.

Wataalam wa mambo ya saikolojia na maumbile wamezisoma tabia mbalimbali za binadamu na hatimaye wamewagawanya binadamu katika makundi makuu manne yenye kategoria kuu mbili. Kategoria hizo ni

1.      Introvant: watu wenye uwezo mkubwa kiakili na wanaotafakari mambo kwa kina

                 hapa kuna makundi mawili

1.Melancolin           2. Fragmetic

2.      extrovants: wana uwezo wa kawaida kiakili na hawana tafakari za kina katika mambo yao
Hapa kuna makundi mawili

1. Sanguine         2. Colerick

Na sasa tuangalie tabia za kila kundi na mienendo yao

1.MELANCOLIN
Watu wa kundi hili (females and males) wana sifa zifuatazo
-wana uwezo mkubwa kiakili (high intelligence Quotient)
-ni wagunduzi wa mambo makubwa ya kisayansi
-wanamudu vizuri masomo

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Unafanyaje Iwapo Watu Wako Wa Karibu Wanakuchukia?

 

“Hakuna mtu badala yako, pambana kwa ajili ya maisha yako. Fahamu kuwa hakuna mtu yeyote duniani atakayebeba maisha yako. Mtu anayekuchukia na kukufanyia mambo mabaya analengo la kukuchelewesha kwenye safari yako ya mafanikio”

 

Wakati fulani, nilikutana na rafiki yangu mmoja, anaishi na mke wake na wanamtoto mmoja. Mwaka mmoja uliopita alifiwa na wazazi wake wote hivyo akabaki yeye na mke wake kwenye familia hiyo, na akateuliwa na wanandugu awe msimamizi mkuu wa mali za wazazi wake yakiwemo mashamba na mali nyingine. 

 

Mara baada ya kupewa jukumu hilo, kuna baadhi ya wanandugu hawakufurahishwa na madaraka aliyopewa ikizingatiwa kwamba yeye ni mdogo kuliko wote, wakati huo alikuwa anaumri wa miaka 26. Matokeo ya kupewa madaraka hayo yamewafanya baadhi ya wanandugu wamchukie,  hata kufika hapo nyumbani hawafiki au wakija wanaishia kwa majirani huku wakimsema kwa kila neno baya. Ingekuwa heri kama wangeishia kumsema kwa maneno tu lakini kuna wengine wanaenda mbali zaidi kwa kumtafutia dawa za kumloga ili wamharibie kabisa mambo yake.

 

Jumapili moja nilimtembelea nyumbani kwa

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You Need Self Awareness For These 3 Important Reasons

Ever heard the saying – What you don’t know won’t hurt you? Well, that’s both false and misleading.  In reality, what you don’t know will hurt you. What if a kid growing up and being raised by his or her parents isn’t taught to look left and right when crossing a road? The outcome of that scenario is death, or the unfortunate result of not being able to walk ever again. What if as a kid is growing up, they’re not educated on the repercussions of stealing? You can already see where I’m going with this.
Self awareness works in the exact same way.
 

If you’re not aware of yourself, you don’t know yourself, and you do things unconsciously—the outcome is also death. Not physically, but spiritually, or as the quote below puts it -
“Some people die at the age of 25, but it’s not made official until they’re 75.” – Unknown
You need self awareness for these 3 importa

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12 Powerful Questions to Help You Live Your Life on Your Terms!

“Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.” – Tony Robbins

Do you often ask yourself questions like, “Why does this always happen to me” and “Why am I always doing everything wrong?” or “Why did he do that to me?” Now, do you honestly expect to get an empowering answer from these types of questions?

Questions are very powerful and can have a tremendous impact on your life, but like most things of great power they can harm you just as much as they can help you. Only when used wisely can the right question at the right time have the power to totally shift your

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