Kufika kileleni si safari rahisi

Mtu yeyote ambaye amewahi kupanda mlima mrefu, kama Kilimanjaro au mwingine wowote, atakuambia kitu kimoja muhimu, hakujikuta tu yupo kileleni. Badala yake alianza kupiga hatua moja baada ya nyingine, na kidogo kidogo akapanda mpaka kufikia kileleni.

 
Huu ndio ukweli wa maisha, huwezi kuibukia kileleni, yaani ukajikuta tayari upo kileleni, hakujawahi kutokea muujiza wa aina hiyo. Unapiga hatua moja baada ya nyingine na hatimaye unafika kileleni, kama hutaacha.
 

Lakini tunapokuja kwenye maisha ya kawaida, hasa maisha ya zama hizi, watu wamekuwa wakifikiri
wanaweza kuibukia kileleni. Kwamba umeanza kazi na baada ya muda mfupi umepanda cheo na kuwa
nafasi za juu. Au umeanza biashara na baada ya miezi kadhaa unamiliki biashara kubwa sana na yenye mafanikio makubwa.
 

Hiki ni kitu ambacho wengi wamekuwa wakijidanganya

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NGUVU YA KUWEZA KUJIZUILIA

Kati ya sifa kubwa unayotakiwa kuwa nayo ili uweze kufanikiwa kimaisha ni uwezo wako wa kuahirisha (suspend) mambo yanayokupa raha kwa muda mfupi ili kujenga mambo yatakayokupa furaha kwa muda mrefu.

Mwanzoni mwa 1960 Professor Walter Michael wa chuo kikuu cha Stanford alifanya jaribio fulani la tabia ambalo limekua marufu sana miongoni mwa wanazuoni wa sayansi ya jamii na saikolojia. Jaribia hilo linajulikana kama “Marshmallow Experiment”.

Katika utafiti huu aliwajaribu watoto wadogo kama 100 wenye umri wa miaka minne na mitano. Aliwaweka katika chumba na akawawekea kila mmoja kipande cha mkate mtamu wenye chocolate.

Kisha akawaambia "Kama

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THE POWER OF A POSTIVE ATTITUDE

I am going to ask you to something very weird right now. First of all, I want you to listen to your thoughts. Now tell me, what thoughts fill your head? Would you label them as positive, or negative? 

Now let's say you are walking down the street with these thoughts. Do you think anyone who would meet you would be able to tell you whatís on your mind?

The answer to number one is

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Life is About Choices and the Decisions We Make

Life is like a road. There are long and short roads; smooth and rocky roads; crooked and straight paths. In our life many roads would come our way as we journey through life. There are roads that lead to a life of single blessedness, marriage, and religious vocation. There are also roads that lead to fame and fortune on one hand, or isolation and poverty on the other. There are roads to happiness as there are roads to sadness, roads towards victory and jubilation, and roads leading to defeat and disappointment. 

Just like any road, there are corners, detours, and crossroads in life. Perhaps the most perplexing road that you would encounter is a crossroad. With four roads to choose from and with limited knowledge on where they would go, which road will you take? What is the guarantee that we would choose the right one along the way? Would you take any road, or just stay where

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ABUNDANT THINKING Rich Dad Mindset

DISCLAIMER: This information is for educational and informational purposes only. The content is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice.  

Introduction 
Abundant thinking is a form of positive thinking. It is about creating a mindset of positive values that allow you to perceive your life as one of abundance, not one of deficit. It teaches you to flip your mental attitude coin from negative to positive and appreciate how much

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MADHAIFU MATANO (5) YANAYODIDIMIZA MAHUSIANO NA NDOA

Makala hii ni tafakari huru kuhusu mambo ya msingi katika mahusiano.  Hapa utapata tafakari ya maana ya maneno na imani ambazo zinatutatiza wengi wetu.

1. Mchanganyiko mkubwa kuhusu maana ya mahusiano, mapenzi na ndoa:

Labda kipengele hiki tuanze kwa kueleza kuwa kunaweza kuwepo ndoa, lakini yasiwepo mahusiano wala mapenzi. Inaweza kuonekana kama inachanganya kidogo, lakini ndio ukweli wenyewe.  Ndoa ni namna tuu ambayo

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Things Every Woman Does That Destroy A Relationship

Women are not the only ones who can destroys a relationship, but there are a few things that a lot of women do that send men running for the hills. In every successful relationship, both parties can talk about what is bothering them or common problems that can be avoided.
If you’re starting feel a rift between you and your guy, you can easily bring him back into the fold by making a few changes to yourself and the way that you handle issues when they come up.
 

Here are 5 things that women do to ruin a relationship.

1. Too Much Nagging.
Nagging can be one of the most annoying things to a man.
Women that nag instantly get eye rolls from their

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WHO'S THE BOSS?

Who's the Boss? 

At first glance, it would seem that positive thinking and Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) have nothing to do with one another. But many of us with ADD develop negative thinking patterns because we become frustrated by our challenges and frequent feelings of being overwhelmed. This negative outlook then makes it even harder for us to manage those challenges and move forward. Practicing positive thinking allows people with ADD to focus on our strengths and accomplishments, which increases happiness and motivation. This, in turn, allows us to spend more time making progress, and less time feeling down and stuck. 

The following are some tips provide practical suggestions that you can use to help you shift into more positive thinking patterns: 

1. Take Good Care of Yourself It's much easier to be

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SETTING YOUR GOALS

Setting Your Goals - Easier Said, Easily Done

The basics of setting a goal is an open secret known by top-caliber athletes, successful businessmen and businesswomen and all types of achievers in all the different fields. 
The basics of setting goals give you short-term and long-term motivation and focus. They help you set focus on the acquisition of required knowledge and help you to plan and organize your resources and your time so that you can get the best out of your life.

Setting clearly defined short term and long term goals will enable you to measure your progress and achieve personal satisfaction once you have successfully met your goals. Charting your progress will also enable you to actually see the stages of completion leading to the actual realization of

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TUNAYACHUKULIAJE MAKOSA YA WENGINE?

Makosa ya wengine ni kitu cha kipekee sana kwetu, Makosa ya wengine yanaonekana haraka sana, kuliko hata makosa yetu. Makosa ya wengine yanatupa vitu vya kujadili na kukosoa.

Makosa ya wengine yanatupa ahueni kwamba angalau sisi tuko vizuri, kuliko hao wenye makosa hayo.
Makosa ya wengine tunaweza kuamua kuyatumia tutakavyo, kwa faida zetu binafsi.
Tunapenda kuongelea makosa ya wengine kuliko ya kwetu, lakini hili halifanyi makosa yetu kuwa madogo kuliko ya wengine. Na wala halipunguzi

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HOFU YAKO, ADUI YAKO

Pamoja na hofu zote ulizokuwa nazo siku za nyuma kuhusu siku za sasa, nyingi hazijatokea. Na hata kama zimetokea mambo hayakuwa mabaya kama ulivyokuwa unafikiria. Nina hakika na hili kwa sababu bado upo na bado unaendelea kuyafanya maisha yako kuwa bora zaidi.

Inawezekana Umekuwa ukihofia ya kwamba mambo yatakwenda vibaya, na kuanguka sana kwa kile ambacho unafanya, lakini baadae unakuja kugundua kuwa sehemu kubwa ya hofu zako hazijatokea.

Mara nyingi hofu ya kile kitakachotokea baadae huwa ni matokeo ya ubongo wako kujaribu kuweka hali ya utetezi juu ya kile ambacho unatamani kukichukulia hatua. Wakati wote unapojaribu kutaka kufanya kitu ambacho hujawahi kukifanya kabla, au kupitia njia ambayo hujawahi kuipitia kabla lazima sehemu Fulani ya nafsi yako itakupa maonyo ambayo mara zote huambatana na mifano na picha za kufikirika kuhusu hatari iliyoko mbele yako.

Wakati mwingine ubongo wako unaweza kukutengenezea mifano  na kukuletea picha za kuogofya kuhusu matukio kadhaa ya hatari yanayoweza kutokea hapo baadae ikiwa tu utaamua kuchukua hatua au njia unayotaka kuifuata.  

Lakini ukweli ni kwamba hiyo ni hofu tu na hofu hutengenezwa na fikra zako ili kukupa sababu za kujitetea ili usiamue kuchukua hatua muhimu kwenye maisha yako.

JARIBIO DOGO;

Jaribu kukumbuka mara zote ambazo umekumbana na houfu juu ya jambo ambalo ulitaka kulifanya (na labda ulilifanya)…..

Yaandike yote kwa mpangilio…..

Kasha fanya tathmini Je;

1.       Ni mambo mangapi ambayo hukuyafanya kutokana na hofu iliyoinuka juu yake?

2.       Ni mambo mangapi ambayo uliyafanya baada ya kuzidharau hofu zilizoinuka juu yake?

3.       Je ni mambo mangapi ambayo uliyafu kuwa yangetokea na yakatokea kweli?

Ninaamini kuwa zaidi ya asilimia 90 ya vitu ulivyowahi kivihofia kuwa vingetokea HAVIKUTOKEA!!!

Kama hivyo ndivyo basi hii inamaana kuwa Vitu vingi unavyohofia leo kuhusu kesho yako,kuna uwezekano mkubwa kwamba  havitatokea, japo kwa sasa unaweza kuwa unaogopa sana, lakini nina hakika asilimia 90 ya unavyoogopa sasa wala havitatokea.

• ·         Hivyo acha kuitumia hofu kama sababu ya wewe kuacha kuchukua hatua, kwa sababu sehemu kubwa ya hofu zako hazitatokea.

• ·         Badala ya kuitumia hofu kama kikwazo, itumie hofu kama taarifa, kama tahadhari kwamba kuna uwezekano wa mambo kwenda tofauti na unavyotegemea. Na kwa kuwa na taarifa hizi utaweza kujiandaa vyema ili usifikie kwenye hali mbaya.

• ·         Usikubali hofu ikuzuie kufanya makubwa, bali itumie kama kichocheo cha wewe kwenda mbali zaidi.

Ukweli ni kwamba pamoja na hofu nyingi ambazo umekuwa nazo, nyingi hazijawahi kutokea
na hata zilizotokea mambo hayakuwa mabaya kama ulivyokuwa unategemea.

Kuanzia sasa amua kutokurudishwa nyuma na hofu, itumie hofu kama kichocheo kwako kufanya
kwa ubora zaidi.

CHUKUA HII.
“Fear is not real. The only place that fear can exist is in our thoughts of the future. It is a product of our imagination, causing us to fear things that do not at present and may not ever exist. ― Will Smith.

Hofu siyo kitu halisi. Sehemu pekee ambapo hofu ipo ni kwenye mawazo yetu ya siku zijazo. Ni zao la taaswira tunayojijengea, inayotufanya tuhofie vitu ambavyo havipo sasa na huenda visiwepo kabisa.

Usikubali hofu ikuzuie, bali itumie kama kichocheo. HOFU YAKO NI ADUI YAKO!!!

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KUWA WA KIPEKEE

 

Kwenye maeneo mengi ya maisha yetu tunahitaji usawa, kwa sababu binadamu wote ni sawa, hivyo kila mtu anastahili kupata huduma sawa, hii ni kweli kabisa. Lakini kuna maeneo kwenye maisha yako ambayo huhitaji kabisa usawa na mtu mwingine yeyote. Yaani kwenye maeneo hayo ukikubali usawa tu umejipoteza mwenyewe.

 
Kwa mfano ukienda kwenye msitu na miti yote ikawa inalingana kwa kimo, utakachoona ni msitu
pekee. Lakini kama utafika kwenye msitu wenye miti mingi inayolingana, lakini kukawa na mti mmoja mrefu kuliko mingine, utaanza kuona mti ule kabla ya miti mingine.
 

Hivi ndivyo inavyopaswa kuwa kwenye kazi yako au biashara yako. usikubali kabisa kuwa na usawa na wengine kwa kazi unayofanya, masomo, mahusiano au biashara unayofanya.
Tafuta kuwa tofauti, tafuta kuwa bora zaidi na tafuta kufanya kwa kipekee.
Kwa kuwa kila unachofanya kila mtu anaweza kufanya, njia pekee ya kusimama ni kuwa tofauti na wengine wote.
 

Na uzuri ni kwamba unaweza kuwa tofauti, uamuzi ni wako wewe mwenyewe, kuamua kuweka ubunifu na kuongeza ubora ili kuboresha kile unachofanya zaidi. Na kipimo chako kikiwa ni kutoa huduma bora
kabisa kwa wengine.
 

UKWELI NI KWAMBA
kitu pekee kinachoonekana ni kile ambacho kipo tofauti na wengine. Kwenye dunia ya sasa ambayo watu wengi wanafanya unachofanya, njia pekee ya kusimama na kuonekana ni kuwa tofauti na wengine. 

Kila siku ongeza ubora na kuwa tofauti na wengine huku nikiweka mkazo katika kufanya kitu bora zaidi.
 

CHUKUA HII.
"In order to be irreplaceable one must always be different". - Coco Chanel
 

(Ili uwe wa kipekee na akosekane wa kuziba pengo lako, kuwa wa tofauti).
 

Usikubali kuwa sawa na wengine kwenye kazi yako au biashara yako. Kukubali kuwa sawa na wengine ni njia ya uhakika ya kushindwa, iepuke kwa kuamua kuwa tofauti, kuwa mbunifu na kuweka ubora.

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TOFAUTI YA VVU NA UKIMWI

Ukweli ni kwamba kuna tofauti kati ya mtu mwenye virusi vya Ukimwi na yule ambaye ana Ukimwi, jambo ambalo wengi hawalijui.
Mtu anapokuwa ameambukizwa virusi vya Ukimwi haanzi kuugua mara moja na badala yake huweza kuishi na virusi hivyo kwa muda mrefu hata zaidi ya miaka 10 bila

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SULUHISHO LA UPWEKE

Watu wengi wamekuwa wakifikiri kwamba upweke ni kuwa wao peke yao. Na hivyo ili kuondokana na upweke wamekuwa wakikazana kuhakikisha wanazungukwa na watu wengi.

Licha ya kuzungukwa na watu hao wengi bado upweke walionao hauishi. Bado wanajiona wapweke licha ya kuwa kwenye kundi kubwa la watu.

Badala ya kutatua tatizo la upweke ambalo watu wanalo, wamekuwa wakitafuta njia za kukimbia tatizo hilo, kulificha lisionekane. Na wamekuwa wakificha tatizo hilo kwa kutaka kuzungukwa na watu wengi na kuepuka kuwa peke yao. Na dunia hii ya sasa ambapo mitandao ya kijamii inatuunganisha na

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Njia bora ya kuacha uvutaji sigara

Utafiti wa karibuni zaidi umeonesha kwamba njia bora zaidi ya kuacha uraibu wa kuvuta sigara ni kuacha mara moja.

Utafiti ambao matokeo yake yamechapishwa katika jarida la kimatibabu la Annals of Internal Medicine unasema washiriki walioacha mara moja walikuwa na uwezekano mara 25% zaidi ya kutovuta sigara nusu mwaka baada ya kuachana na uraibu huo wakilinganishwa na walioacha uvutaji sigara taratibu taratibu.

Idara ya Afya ya Taifa Uingereza inasema njia bora zaidi ni kutenga siku fulani kuwa ya kuacha kuvuta sigara.
Weka ahadi, tenga siku na uhakikishe umefanya hivyo siku hiyo, idara hiyo inashauri.
Utafiti huo wa karibuni uliofadhiliwa na Wakfu wa Moyo wa Uingereza ulihusisha washiriki 700 wa kujitolea.
Waliwekwa kwenye makundi mawili, moja la kuacha kuvuta sigara mara moja na jingine la kuacha asteaste.
Baada ya miezi sita, ni 15.5% ya washiriki walioacha kuvuta sigara taratibu taratibu waliokuwa bado hawavuti sigara wakilinganishwa na 22% kwenye kundi la walioacha kuvuta sigara mara moja.

Uvutaji sigara ni moja ya mambo yanayoaminika kusababisha saratani

Kiongozi wa utafiti huo Dkt Nicola Lindson-Hawley, kutoka Chuo Kikuu cha Oxford alisema: "Tofauti inaonekana ni kama inatokana na kutatizika kwa watu

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