How To Help Your Heartbroken Friend Become Normal Like Before

 

I exactly know how it feels, the pain is really unimaginable. No matter how cheered up person you are in your daily life, once your heart breaks everything comes to rest. You literally then don’t wanna enjoy life or should I say you almost forget how to enjoy life.
 
There was a time when your friend used to be the heartbeat of everyone, the shining star of every party, the person full of life but now your friend is unable to smile even.
 
There are different reasons for being heartbroken, some get separated due to their family pressures or some get separated because one of them ditched the other.
 

To be very true I have seen one of close friend of mine being in this condition, every time he used to stay depressed because he was ditched by his girlfriend, only I know how I used to made him laugh, he once said even – “Bro, if you wouldn’t have been with me, literally I would have gone

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Kejeli Ni Tabia Za Mtu Aliyeshindwa....

Watu huwa wanakejeli vitu ambavyo wanavihofia au ambavyo wao wenyewe hawawezi kuvifanya.
Na hivyo wanapomwona mtu mwingine anafanya, inawaumiza na ili kujiondolea maumivu hayo wanakejeli.
Wanatengeneza hadithi zao ambazo zitawafanya wao wawe sahihi kuliko yule ambaye amechagua kufanya kitu cha tofauti. Na watakuwa na maneno mengi ya kejeli.
 

Vitu viwili vya kuondoka navyo hapa leo.

1. Usiumie au kukata tamaa kwa kejeli za watu, chunguza kwa makini na utajionea mwenyewe kama wanachosema ni kweli au ni kuficha udhaifu wao. Angalia wale wanaokukejeli wewe ni kipi kikubwa ambacho wamewahi kufanya kwenye

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Hisia 8 Hatari Katika Mapenzi

Miongoni mwa vitu vinavyochangia kuharibu uhusiano wa kimapenzi ni hisia. Wapenzi wengi wameachana kwa sababu si kwamba walithibitisha ubaya wa wenzao ila walijijaza wenyewe hisia mbaya na kujikuta wamepoteza thamani ya kupenda. Hebu angalia hisia nane hatari ili uzikimbie mapema kabla hazijakuharibia penzi lako.

1. Nitasalitiwa
Kuishi katika mapenzi huku ukiwa na fikra kwamba mwenza wako anakusaliti ni jambo baya kwa vile huathiri msukumo wa ndani wa k

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Anakuliza Kila Mara Lakini Unashindwa Kumuacha?

Namshukuru Mungu kwa mara nyingine tena kwa kunijaalia fursa hii ya pekee ya kuzungumza nawe mpenzi msomaji wa safu hii ya uwanja wa mahusiano ya mapenzi.
Si unajua bila mapenzi hakuna maisha! na Raha ya maisha ni kuwa na mwenzi, mpenzi wa kumpenda na kukupenda ki ukweli na sio kujaribu au kuzuga. Vile vile mahusiano Mabaya ya kimapenzi hupelekea muunganiko (ndoa) mbaya ambayo pia madhara yake ni makubwa sana. Ndiyo ni makubwa!

Asilimia kubwa ya watoto waishio kwenye mazingira hatarishi (watoto wa mitaani), mmomonyoko wa maadili ya vijana wa kike na kiume, makundi ya uhalifu n.k ni matokeo ya mahusiano mabaya ya wapenzi au wanandoa,

Kwa wale walio katika mapenzi matamu na ya kweli watakubaliana na mimi kuwa mapenzi yenye amani na masikilizano ni kama ‘paradiso’ ndogo ndani ya ulimwengu huu mkubwa uliojaa vituko! Wakati mwingine unaweza hata kujikuta umeshiba bila kula, eti kwa sababu tu umemuona mpenzi wako, au kuwa nae karibu

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The First Step To Change

 

I would forgive you for reading a few personal development blog posts and coming away from the experience more troubled than relieved. After all,

*Why don’t you own a business?
 
*Isn’t it about time you traveled the world?

Those things will happen, of course — right after you sign up for the email list.
Phew. Thank God all I have to do to solve my problems is click a button.
In a perfect world, right?
Actually, it’s not so far off
The most frustrating aspect of the you-don’t-just-click-a-button-to-solve-your-problems world is…the truth isn’t that different. Small changes in personal behavior do lead to big changes.
You hear it all the time because it’s true: the most challenging barriers to personal change are self-created. Humans have a fantastic capacity for internally-generated excuses inventing and assigning external blame. These excuses protect us from our fear of failure…by protecting us from failure…by protecting us from even trying in the first place.

It’s not even a “matter-of-fact-hey-this-can-happen” issue. Big changes cannot happen without small changes. The entire published works of Tolstoy could never exist without a rough draft first page, handwritten somewhere back in 19th-century-Russia.

Prove it to yourself
There wouldn’t happen to be any goals in your life that you’ve been meaning to do for a long time despite no recorded progress…would

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Check Your Ego, Build Your Relationships

Picture yourself at work leading your way to a one-to-one meeting with your boss.

Words start flowing and you can feel them like bullets fired by a machine gun hitting you deep down somewhere you can almost feel the pain: They are the foundations of your ego being badly shaken, holding on again and again after every strike. Nonetheless, you stand strong and do not let your feelings throw you to say something wrong. However, the damage is done. As common as this panorama may seem, it is always brought about due to the same cause: Our egos.
And the less flexible we are to the external threats it receives, the more resistance and emotional pain we will suffer as a result.

Here you will find three tips on helping you to deal with your ego without it causing you more headaches than needed:

1-Do not Take it Personally
Many times the stuff people tell you, whether it is your colleague at work or someone you just met in a pub, is more a reflection of their state of mind and

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20 Best Love Quotes to Inspire your Love

Here is

A short collection of 20 love quotes which will inspire you to express your love. Love is probably the best feeling that does not depend on any outward beauty. Many poets, artists and musicians have graced us with some extra ordinary lines which makes us feel what they’re feeling and inspire us the most to express our love.
 
So lets have a look at those words.
20 Best Love Quotes

1-”Love isn’t something you find.
Love is something that finds you.” -Loret

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Njia Ya Kupunguza Maumivu Wakati Wa Kujifungua

Nimewahi kusoma habari za mkunga Kim Hildebrand Cardoso kutoka Berkeley, California nchini Marekani kuhusiana na uchungu waupatao wanawake wakati wa kujifungua na vifo vitokanavyo na uzazi. Ingawa sina cheti cha utabibu niliamua kujikita katika uchunguzi ili nijue kwanini akina mama wengi hasa Tanzania hupata matatizo wakati wa kujifungua?

Nilichogundua ni kwamba karibu kila msichana mwenye umri wa kuweza kubeba ujauzito anatambua matatizo ya mimba na maumivu makali wakati wa kujifungua, lakini miongoni mwa wanawake wenye kufahamu huo ni wachache wanaopewa elimu ya kupunguza uchungu wakati wa kujifungua na jinsi ya kudhibiti matatizo ya ujauzito.

Mpango wa hivi karibuni wa watalaamu wa nchini Marekani uliochapishwa na gazeti la The Daily Mail na The Daily Telegraph ulishauri kuongeza nasaha kwa

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How Rise Up When Disappointment Gets You Down

Not getting what you expect can be a pleasant surprise – or a devastating disappointment. When things didn’t turn out the way I hoped while traveling with a friend, I was quick to blame it on her. But once I started taking responsibility for my negative feelings, I realized how easy it is to rise above disappointment.

We had planned a trip together to Kyoto, with all the things we wanted to do: visit temples, eat street food, try on traditional costumes… It would be my only chance to visit during my time in Japan, and I wanted to make the most of it.
 

Travel is a passion of mine, and I was looking forward to visiting Japan’s former imperial capital. But despite the plans we had made, I felt like the

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Maumivu Wakati Wa Tendo La Ndoa (Dyspareunia)

Tatizo hili huwasumbua baadhi ya wanawake walio katika umri wa kuzaa, yaani kuanzia miaka 18 hadi 40. Tatizo huweza kuanza ghafla au taratibu pale mwanamke anapofanya tendo.

Maumivu haya hutokana na hali ya mabadiliko ukeni ambapo uke huwa mkavu daima au mwanamke anapata vipindi vya ukavu ukeni na katika mlango wa kizazi pia husababisha tatizo hili.
 
Maumivu yanaweza kuwa ndani ya kizazi, yaani wakati wa tendo unahisi kuna kitu kinasukumwa na ukahisi maumivu ya tumbo chini ya kitovu na kiuno wakati wa tendo.

Maumivu pia yanaweza kutokea baada ya tendo la ndoa, mwanamke akafanya tendo la ndoa vizuri lakini anapomaliza tu akij

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Vyakula Bora Anavyostahili Kula Mama Anayenyonyesha

Chakula bora ni muhimu sana kwa mama anayenyonyesha, kwanza kwaajili ya kuimarisha afya yake mwenyewe na pili kwaajili ya uzarishaji wa maziwa yenye virutubisho sahihi kwaajili ya mtoto.

Ifuatayo ni orodha ya vyakula 8 bora anavyostahili kula mama anayenyonyes

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Wanawake Pia Huchangia Upungufu wa Nguvu za Kiume

Kesi ya wanaume kupungukiwa nguvu za kiume zimezidi kushika kasi, kiasi cha kufanya dawa za kuongeza nguvu hizo kuwa maarufu na zenye mahitaji makubwa katika jamii.

Waganga wa kienyeji wamekuwa wakitumia dawa hizo kama tiba ya msingi ya kuwavutia wateja kwenye biashara zao. Hii inaonesha kuwa tatizo hili ni kubwa miongoni mwa wanaume wengi katika jamii yetu.

Hata hivyo, utafiti unaonesha kwamba wengi kati ya wanaume waliowahi kutumia dawa za asili na zile za hospitali kuondokana na tatizo la upungufu wa nguvu za kiume hawakufanikiwa kupata tiba ya kudumu, matokeo yake wamegeuzwa kuwa watumwa wa kila wanapotaka kushiriki tendo lazima wabwie ‘kolezo’ la kuwasaidia kuamsha hisia zao.

Kwa wanaume, ukosefu wa nguvu ni jambo linalouma na kuondoa kabisa ujasiri. Wengi kati yao wako tayari kutumia pesa na uwezo wao wote kuhakikisha kuwa heshima ya tendo la ndoa

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Hot in the news: Scientists “Cut out” HIV from human cells (Perspective)

A few years ago scientists developed, and patented a technique to edit out (cut out) a specific part of a DNA. Researchers at Temple University in Philadelphia, have recently modified this method to cut out HIV DNA from HIV-infected human cells grown in the Lab. This is a significant achievement because HIV lodges it's DNA into human cells, making it almost impossible to get rid of. Now, it is possible to cut it out!

The results point toward this exciting method as a promising way of eradicating HIV from persons living with HIV. Yet there is still a way to go for several reasons:

1. The gene editing method called CRISPR/Cas9 (like a scissor), requires that Scientists design this scissor based on the type of HIV the person is living with. There are many different types of the virus, which is one reason why a vaccine is so difficult to

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Maisha Ni Kama Ujenzi Wa Kiota, Umejenga Chako?

Habari yako ndugu na rafiki;

Leo ni siku nyingine nzuri, yenye kila Neema na Rehema. Najisikia furaha pale ninapokuona tunaendelea pamoja kwenye juhudi zetu za kuboresha maisha yetu. Leo nimekuletea makala hii nzuri ndani yake ikiwa imebeba ujumbe muhimu kwako kwa wakati huu. 

Ndugu, maisha yapo, yataendelea kuwepo hata kama mimi na wewe hatutakuwepo. Mimi na wewe na yule na watu wengine wote unaowaona tumepewa fursa moja kubwa ya kuishi. Wote tumezaliwa na tumekua kila mmoja kwa jinsi yake, wote tunapumua na kutumia hewa hii hii ya aina moja. Wote tunapata mwanga huu huu wa jua. Na mambo mengine mengi tunashirikiana sawa kwa wote.

Pamoja na kwamba tuna shirikiana mambo mengi, kuna tofauti zinajitokeza miongoni mwetu. Moja ya tofauti hizo ni mafanikio. Kuna wengine japo umri na mambo mengi tunafanana lakini wanatuzidi kimafanikio. Kunasababu nyingi ambazo tunaweza kuzitumia kama ndizo zinazosababisha tutofautiane kimafanikio. Hilo lisikutishe, hebu tujifunze kwa viumbe wengine.

Ndege Wajenzi Na Wasio Wajenzi

Kama ilivyo kwa binadamu, ndivyo ilivyo kwa viumbe wengine kama ndege. Wote wanazaliwa, wanakua na hatimaye wanakuwa ndege wakubwa kwa jinsi

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Je Umejijengea Himaya Yako? Kama Bado Ijenge Sasa!

Neno Himaya linamaana zaidi ya moja lakini maana ninayozungumzia hapa ni biashara kubwa(extensive) inayoongozwa na mtu mmoja au kampuni. Mfano kwa Tanzania ni Himaya ya Said Salim Awadh Bakhresa.

 

Mpenzi msomaji wangu ninaamini kuwa makala hii itakusaidia kukutia hamasa ikiwa unandoto za kufika mbali kiuchumi. Hakuna kazi ngumu kama kujenga kitu kikubwa kisichokuwepo na ambacho wewe ndiye mwanzilishi wake. Inahitaji juhudi kubwa, maarifa mengi, uzoefu wa kutosha, ubunifu mwingi na zaidi ya hayo inahitaji maono dhahiri.

Dr.Laura Schlessinger, Mwandishi wa vitabu na mtoa maada wa vipindi vya redio huko Marekani aliwahi kusema “Usijaribu kufanya jambo lolote ikiwa haujajiandaa kukabiliana na changamoto zinazotokana na jambo hilo”.

Mimi nasema usijaribu kuanza  kujenga himaya yako ikiwa hauna kiu ya dhati ya kuwa na himaya. Ni gharama kubwa zinahitajika sio gharama za pesa tu bali na gharama ya muda, mawazo,elimu,na ushindani nk.

Elimu yako ya darasani inaweza kukusaidia kidogo

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